Agnes is young, free and loving it. Unafraid to go against societal norms, she’s waving goodbye to what she’s been conditioned to think about herself since she was a kid and is redefining all of it. She’s getting to know herself on a clean slate, confronting the limits that society has set for norm-critical self-discovery. We sat down with her to chat about what exactly she’s been learning and loving about herself.

Paint the picture of how you see your body.

That’s actually a difficult question — do you mean how my body looks or how my body is used? It’s inconsistent and changes from day to day, and that’s okay — the inconsistency is what makes it alive. My body is beautiful, practical, enjoyable and purposeful. 

Bodies are definitely enjoyable. How do you feel when you’re naked?

Great. I love being naked. It’s a very good way for me to become comfortable and shameless about my body. The more we normalize being naked, the less shame and discomfort will be attached to it. 

What’s your relationship with your body these days?

This also changes from time to time. My relationship with my body has really been developing in the last few years. I’ve started to see my body as extremely multifunctional, so that when something about it annoys me or isn’t ideal, I come up with an idea or activity that my body could be useful for. So, we get along quite well. I get to choose when my body is decorative or when it performs as a beautiful, sexy or even as a comforting tool. 

Speaking of tools… do you use any?

Sex toys? Yup. It’s awesome, and I’m just getting started.

Has your sexuality also been developing recently?

Yes. It’s present, haha. I’m young and I don't think labelling sexuality is that helpful or relevant for people that are not straight. I know I’m not straight, but that’s it — I think being straight is a myth anyway. When you think of labelling sexuality, often gender is involved — like being gay means you’re only attracted to people of the same gender as yourself. But does that mean people’s birth assigned gender or gender identity?  Also do you really have to know somebody’s gender to be attracted to them? I don’t think so. And if people think so, it’s definitely because of societal norms. 

I’m literally in the middle of developing. I’ve learned that gender isn’t a big deal to me, but it is to the rest of the world and I can’t get my head around that. 

Solo sex vs. sex with others — discuss.

Solo sex can be anything from stress release right before bed to simply wanting to have some fun. But the major plus side is that it’s much more safe. There’s no one to cross your boundaries, not care about your orgasm or look at you from angles that make you feel insecure. It’s just more likely to not turn awkward or uncomfortable.  But partnered sex is more exiting and special for me.